A Love Letter to Yourself

write a love letter to yourself

Let's get a little deep and talk about how we treat ourselves. 

My family and I were on a long car ride, on our way to Monterey for the weekend. I was reading Danielle LaPorte's "White Hot Truth". Ya know, just trying to feed my soul while my kids were quiet. I came across this paragraph...

Underneath so much of our self-helping can be a lot of self-loathing. We create new obsessions to replace our old addictions. Of course a green smoothie is an immensely more nutritious choice than a soda pop. Exercise and meditation have far more enjoyable side effects than antidepressants. Practicing lovingkindness is perpetually awesome. But often, certainly more than we admit to ourselves, we’re stuck in a self-help Groundhog Day. “I’m not good enough yet, but I’ll get better. I’m getting better at bettering myself. Am I better yet?” And repeat.

What’s behind the compulsive drive to improve?... It seeps in from every photoshopped image telling you that you should be thinner, curvier (but only in the right places), whiter, browner, perfectly coiffed, and perpetually positive as you balance you workout time, your thriving career, and feed your well-behaved children non-genetically modified food - and if you’re not making time for all those things, well, you must not want it bad enough.
— Danielle LaPorte in "White Hot Truth"

I screamed, "Yes!!!"… scaring the crap out of my husband. As I read on I came to this question... 

Can you imagine not craving to be different than you are right now?"

It took my breath away because I couldn't. It was a heartbreaking thought, but I just couldn't imagine being content with being today's me. There was an endless list of "things wrong with me" floating around and I couldn't imagine how it would feel to be "fixed". 

I haven't "made it", yet, I'm not generous enough, I don't have enough patience, I haven't lost the 20 pounds I gained since the wedding, my pores are too big, my cellulite is out of control, I have serious Daddy issues, and I’m addicted to praise… probably because of those Daddy issues. 

We all want to improve. No one is perfect and life is all about growth. But those Ugh, I'm so sick of myself thoughts are so destructive! They take up residence in your brain and leave you constantly searching for the better you.

I have this amazing friend. I call her my Muse because after a Skype call with her my inspiration is at an all time crazy beautiful high and I have this inescapable itch to create. After confessing some of my inner judgey demons, she told me to write a love letter to myself. I was hesitant at first, but it really was a genius idea.

The first piece of the self-acceptance puzzle is to break the cycle of self-hate by taking a moment to recognize how freaking awesome you are. 

It would be great if we could be our own biggest cheerleader, but more often we act as our own worst critic. As my lovely friend put it…

We’re all guilty of spending so much of our time doubting ourselves, being critical of ourselves, thinking of all the things we did wrong. We are so harsh with ourselves and yet we turn around and are loving and nurturing and supportive for other people in our lives. Why then are we not more gentle with ourselves?

You won’t reach all of your goals today, or tomorrow, or in a year. So instead of dwelling in the “not done” let’s party where your best assets live. Sit in a quiet place, with a pen and paper, and write a love letter to yourself. Be an outsider peeking into your life and write what you love about yourself.

Criticism and negativity don’t belong here… only love and compassion.

Lots of love and a nap,



PS. If you want to dive deeper into the Self-Love pool, my spiritual crush, Danielle LaPorte, is speaking with 30 others at The Self-Acceptance Summit on Sept 11, 2017. You can register for the live broadcast at no cost HERE.

Your Hands...

Let’s kick off The Self-Care Series with a quick and relaxing routine to ease you into the idea of taking care of yourself. Look at your hands. Are they cracked and peeling with rough patches you didn’t even realize were there? Mom life is taxing and your hands take a beating. It may be time to show them some love. 

This routine may seem trivial, but spending 5 minutes pampering your hands can make a significant difference in how you feel, physically and emotionally. Imagine what could be born from 5 minutes of sitting quietly to focus on you.

My hands have seen better days. After working a long week as a nurse my hands are left peeling, red and irritated, burning every time I wash them.  The harsh cleansers and drying antibacterial foam in my hospital really take a toll. And a break in the skin is a portal for infection, so this self-care routine has a number of health benefits.

My personal advice is to schedule this short self-care routine when your kids are asleep or at school, so that you give yourself undivided, uninterrupted time and attention.

Let’s get started!

Dr. Bronner's Castille Soap

Step 1: Cleanse hands with Dr. Bronner’s Lavender Castile soap. I love this stuff and I use it for everything from face to fabric! It’s a gentle cleanser using only organic vegan ingredients, and is great for everyday use, but especially important when you have irritated skin. It cleanses the skin without drying it out, and the lavender essential oil helps to calm the irritation. Lavender oil has also been used to induce sleep and help reduce feelings of stress and anxiety, so this packs a mean punch for Moms. I use this foaming dispenser because this liquid love is magic, and a little goes a long way!

shea moisture hibiscus hand scrub

Step 2: Scrub the dead skin away with Shea Moisture's Coconut & Hibiscus Hand & Body Scrub. This sugar scrub gently exfoliates while the Vitamin E and shea butter soothes dryness and acts as a barrier preventing further damage. Songyi Mushrooms will take care of those dark dry patches on your knuckles by evening your skin tone. Work the scrub into your palms, back of hands, and between fingers. Rinse to reveal smooth, soft, and hydrated paws.

CND solaroil

Step 3: Apply a small drop of cuticle oil to the bed of each nail and work into cuticles. I use Solar Oil. It's made with Jojoba oil and Vitamin E and will build stronger, healthier nails with repeated use. I also use this in the morning before heading out the door... Annie likes to help. :)

origins hand treatment

Step 4: Rub a dime sized amount of Origins Rejuvenating Hand treatment all over hands (and maybe on your elbows if you have a tad extra). Rose of Jericho, Trehalose, and Sea Haricots hydrate, while Ancient Oceanic Flora and Scutellaria Extract repair UV damage and even out skin tone. It's the perfect end to this routine. It's like dotting your i's and crossing your t's.

Step 5: Sit down with your feet up, a cup of hot tea, and a good book. Who am I kidding?! I have trashy TV to watch!

Sending you lots of love, and a nap. 


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